Since the release of "Some" by JungGiGo featuring Soyu, the term "some" (also known as the 'hook-up culture' in the western world) has become a popular lingo used in both the K-Pop and K-Drama scenes.
For example, in the drama 'Reply 1997,' it's possible that Yoonjae and Shi Won were engaged in a "some"-relationship. They spent almost every waking moment together, had feelings for one another, asked permission to be in a relationship, shared food, drinks, memories together. But, no labels (until waayyyy later).
Here is a very basic understanding of being in a "some"-relationship: you have confirmed your feelings for one another but you are not officially in a relationship. You might be going through the motions of having a boyfriend/girlfriend, but you stay away from putting on labels between you and your "some"-partner.
You feel some-type-of-way for your partner but nothing too real to make it a committed relationship, yet. Confusing you yet? Yeah, it confuses me too.
"Some"-relationships are not for everyone. And just like all types of relationships, there are pros and cons to being in it. So here are 5 pros and cons of being in a some-relationship so you can figure out if having a "some"-partner is for you.
Pros
- You have OPTIONS
When you're in a some-relationship, you are not obligated to be committed to that one person. You could be in multiple some-relationships without having to feel guilty. - There are no set-in-stone rules
In a some-relationship, there are no rules or guidelines you have to follow. Having no rules can sometimes be liberating. - The honeymoon phase can go as long as you'd like
As long as you are still in the some-relationship zone and not let your emotions go haywire, the honeymoon phase could go as long as you'd like. Just make sure that both parties understand the terms and conditions of the situation and try not to go beyond set boundaries. - You get to enjoy the perks of being in a relationship without actually having to click off the 'in a relationship' on Facebook
These perks include, having a cuddle buddy, having someone to constantly text you and keep you company during the day (and/or at night), talking to someone who cares for your well-being, the feelings of being wanted, someone to open the door for you and many more. - Intimacy without commitment
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Cons:
- You might be one of the "options"
They might be talking to someone else in the same way that they call you "babe," RIGHT NOW. You are not a priority, but just another option. - Someone is bound to get hurt
There is basically no win-win situation in this relationship. As long as there are some type of feelings involved, either you or your partner will get hurt. And that person might be you. - The mind games
Does she really like me? Is he talking to someone else? Should I text her now? Will he think that I'm being too clingy? Am I overanalyzing this? Is she telling the truth? OMGOMGOMGOMGOMG! - "Whoever cares less, wins"
You don't know where you stand with the person you like. But you don't want to seem desperate by asking. And in the end it seems as if the more you care about what they are doing, the more you will get hurt. - Loss of real feelings and real love
Somewhere along the line of playing coy, flirting with copious amounts of winking emojis and "xoxo," you start to wonder if you really like this person and if they are worth the time that you are putting in, vice versa. In the end, you just kind of lose sight of what might be 'real' love and what is temporary.
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