Singer Ben shared her love for her daughter and opened up about her life after divorce.
On November 12, the 10th episode of TV CHOSUN’s 'Now, I'm Alone' featured Ben, who has established herself as an OST queen with soundtracks for popular dramas like 'Another Miss Oh,' 'Hotel Del Luna,' and 'Mr. Sunshine.' The show presented a glimpse of Ben’s sweet day-to-day life with her daughter Lia after her divorce.
Ben revealed that she got married at 29, saying, “I always wanted to marry early, and I thought, ‘This must be the person I’m supposed to marry.’ We shared that feeling.”
She continued, “The first year was lovely, but as issues started arising one by one, we argued a lot. There were countless incidents. I felt like I had become someone too easy to take for granted. I kept thinking, ‘This isn’t what I loved for, this isn’t why I opened my heart. If I did this much, you shouldn’t treat me this way.’”
She added, “I loved babies even when I was young. I had an older brother and always wanted a younger sibling. That's how much I loved babies. So, when I got married, I wanted to have a baby quickly. We put in a lot of effort, but even while trying to have a child, we would argue in the middle of conversations when I felt upset. When things were at their toughest, I let go of everything and we took a trip. That’s when I became pregnant with Lia, while I was taking a break.”
Ben decided to divorce six months after giving birth. She explained, “It felt like Lia had come into my life to save me. When you have a baby, you try to find happiness, eat well, and think positively. I even called her ‘Angel’ as her prenatal nickname. She came to me during such a hard time that she brought me immense happiness.”
She continued, “After having my baby, I decided to divorce. When Lia was six months old, I made up my mind. To be honest, so much had happened, and I tried incredibly hard to overcome it. No one gets married thinking they’ll divorce. I thought divorce would never happen to me. In my family, lying is the worst thing you can do. Maybe because of that, I really dislike dishonesty. But the trust just crumbled.”
Ben explained, “After having the baby, I realized I couldn’t continue the marriage. Giving birth to Lia, and going through so much, gave me the courage to end it. All I thought was that I needed to stop, that I had to make her happy, show her only the best things, and take responsibility for her. I realized I couldn’t raise her in a complete family, so I decided on divorce.”
She added, “There were many turning points, not just one or two. I tried to overcome them, but even after Lia was born, things stayed the same, and I realized that to be able to take care of her, I needed to be happy and whole myself. For her and myself, I made that choice.”
Ben also shared, “I lived a very difficult life and went through depression. Even though I thought I was a strong person after 14 years in the entertainment industry, it was really hard. I was at rock bottom, completely hopeless. I had made the decision, but it wasn’t as easy as I thought. It felt like I didn’t exist like I was dead inside. I thought I’d never return to who I was.”
She continued, “I believe my daughter saved me. I realized I needed to pull myself together. I reminded myself that this choice was to take responsibility for her, for her well-being, and for my own happiness. I knew nothing would change by staying miserable, so I put in effort to move forward. My parents helped me with that. Now, I’ve overcome a lot, and I’m truly happy.”
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