When I was a child and very much younger, I am ashamed to admit that I was once a bully myself. Out of the brokenness that I was in, I used to bully this one person and I know I have caused her a lot of hurts and pains. As the years passed by, I grew up, I became wiser mentally and emotionally. I learned from my mistakes and although it was about 4 years late, I went up to my victim and sincerely apologized deeply from my heart. She forgave me and to this day, we've been best friends for 18 years now.

I'm not saying that bullying is right, but we make mistakes too. We learn from it and we repent from it and I truly believe that we can change for the better. So give us a chance, those who once made a bad choice but repented. Those that truly apologized. Give us a chance to choose to do the better thing and choose a life that is better than what we chose last time. I truly am sorry to all those who have been victims before. Nothing can replace the hurt that you have felt and go through which was cruelly and selfishly inflicted by bullies such as a younger me. I apologize to you all on their behalf and I pray that those who harmed you will find their way to sincerely apologize and ask for your forgiveness.

I think it's extremely insensitive to tell the victims to "just get over it" and "move on". You have no right to tell them that. I don't care if you were bullied yourself. There are many different types of bullying and it affects victims differently from person to person. So no, you don't get to tell someone who you don't know to get over their trauma. You don't know what mental scars it has left on them.

I was bullied for years, and it might have been close to 10 years ago now, but it resulted in social anxiety, a never-ending battle with depression and commitment issues for me. I inherently hate myself and my past. I've thought about killing myself a million times, and in the back of my head I know that thought will never leave me completely. I have to live with all of that, probably for my entire life. I've moved on enough to build a life for myself, but there's absolutely no question that my tormentors have scarred me for life.

I think a sincere and personal apology from my tormentors would allow me to forgive them, but they've never done that so I can't forgive them. And tbh even that won't change the shit I have to live with bc of what happened back then.

So don't act like just bc these things with Taeyong happened in the past, that it somehow makes it ok. And don't tell the victims to stop being upset about it, or for them to stop continuing to bring it up until they get a personal apology. Bc maybe they need that personal apology in order to move on with their own life. It's not you who's supposed to forgive him, it's his victims. Taeyong did something very wrong, and he has to live with that. Just like his victims have to live with what happened to them.